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Affective Marriage
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Close to 30 years in one monogomous relationship, I often wonder, when can you proclaim that you have a successful marriage. I have heard of couples getting divorced within a year, and even after 36 years. After a 36 year marriage, that ends in divorce, can you say that was a successful marriage? I came to the conclusion that the only way you can proclaim you have (had) a successful marriage is if you are a widow or a widower. One partner died, and you can say, “yes, it was successful, because we were still married when the partner died”. I am not looking forward to that proclamation by either myself or my husband.
So, what is an affective marriage? Affective is the domain of being motivated and inspired. I would then conclude that an affective marriage is a marriage that motivates and inspires you to be the best you can be. Do you get motivated by your partner’s actions? They are trying to “get healthy”, so it motivates and inspires you to “get healthy too”. They or you are learning about a new subject or topic, or have taken up a new interest or hobby. Does that motivate you to join in? Or at least ask about their new interest? It should. I never knew so much about James Bond, military airplanes or motorcycles until I entered a relationship with my husband. He in turn knows alot more about dog and horse breeds, my culture and country and Journey (the greatest rock band ever!).
I found this quote that I especially enjoyed tonight:
Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated; often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing anyone who comes between them.
Sydney Smith
Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_marriage2.html#gVHoKVjALFDwrxmV.99
Come together, and go apart. Be your own blade, but stay connected, and have similarities. AND always, punish anything that gets between you….You will then have an Affective, and Successful Marriage until the of time.
When You Inspire Others….
they inspire you…
Inspiration, to increase your desire to continue on the path, is sometimes difficult to come by, even though it is desparately needed.
One of the things that inspired me to become a teacher, is the “oh, I get it” comment that I receive from a student. It inspires me everyday, to continue my teaching career. Each one of is a teacher, maybe not with a credential, but definitely a teacher. Parents, grandparents, neighbors, and even sometimes strangers, can all teach us something. Learning happens often.
But there is a certain magic when you teach. You share a part of you. And someone internalizes your lesson for the rest of their lives. You become immortal in their memory. I still remember my kindergarten teacher, even though she has long passed. I’m sure your remember your kindergarten teacher too. It is true that when you teach, you touch the future.
I am not trying to convince you to become a teacher, but I would like to inspire you to teach others about what you know. It’ll surprise you what you learn.
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Finding Motivation
I often hear teachers discussing the concerns of extrinsic rewards. How the student needs to do the activity, assignment or projects and just feel good about it (intrinsic reward), and they shouldn’t have to give them anything else. My response is this: Why do adults get extrinsic rewards, often rewarding themselves, but yet children/students, have to “feel good about their work” without rewards? Usually the response is, I don’t have extrinsic rewards….Oh yes, you do…that “mocha latte, the paycheck, the nice car, the new “gaget”, the lastest phone, the vacation “you need”, and on and on. Bribing the student “if you get this done, you will receive that” is a different arguement, and not for this post. Just be aware, that everyone has a “modiva” (a motive), and finding what motivates your students, even if it is extrinsic reward, is a valid way to promote students participation.
Affective Learning 